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| Description | What we wear influences how we act. Wearing clothes that suit us and compliment our style often results in increased levels of confidence and drive. On the other hand, wearing ill-fitting clothes, be it too tight or too loose or clothes that don’t suit the occasion, such as wearing a T-shirt to a wedding, tend to make us shy away from socializing and enforce a negative self-image. Like everything that we wear, chastity belts have a unique influence on our psyche. The question is, what is that influence specifically, and how does it manifest itself? A brief history of chastity belts Chastity belts have a great deal of myth surrounding them. So much, in fact, that it becomes hard to differentiate between the fact and the fiction of the matter. For one, their early history remains clouded and doubtful. While a reference to them appears in 14th-century text, scholars and experts have yet to find any that can be dated to that time period. It appears that the idea of chastity belts was conceived of as a joke, poking fun at the overtly purity fixated society of the time. The first credible usage of chastity belts as tools to help one abstain from sexual impulses appears to be in the 19th century, where they were used to keep women from masturbating. Nowadays, chastity belts are worn by people wanting to stave off any unwanted sexual urges and keep themselves pure until marriage. Ironically, they also enjoy a fair amount of usage in the BDSM community, though we won’t be touching upon that in this article. Instead, we’ll be focusing our attention on the former, and attempting to access what chastity belts do to our thinking and our psychology. Why would somebody wear a chastity belt? The reason for wearing a chastity belt is fairly simple; it helps you remain celibate. But that isn’t what I am interested in. I want to know why somebody would wear a chastity belt. What motivates them to wear it. And do the psychological effects of wearing one differ depending on your reasoning? From what I’ve been able to gather, there are three reasons why people would choose to wear a chastity belt. Firstly, they desire to remain celibate. Secondly, they are forced to as a form of atonement. And thirdly, they wish to keep themselves from committing adultery. My Disclaimer I am not an expert in psychology. While I find the subject interesting, I haven’t undergone any kind of specialized training or certification. I have no experience or expertise in this field beyond what I have read. Much of what you’re about to read is simply conjecture based on my limited understanding of how our minds work. I don’t claim that this information is accurate or even true. Anything you do with the information you are about to read is your responsibility, and I do not condone any action taken based on anything written in this article. The psychological effect of wearing a chastity belt for abstinence Many people wear chastity belts simply because they wish to remain celibate. This may be motivated by religious or personal beliefs about the sanctity of marriage. Perhaps it simply stems from a disinterest in sex and a desire to protect oneself from threats that would otherwise compromise one’s chastity. Either way, wearing a chastity belt for this reason generally brings about it a sense of calm. Aside from any religious connotations that may contribute to the feeling, the calm is likely due to the fact that the wearer no longer has to worry about sexuality in its entirety. It no longer concerns them, and they’re free to devote their time and mental resources to other things. The psychological effect of wearing a chastity belt as atonement In the modern-day, infidelity usually ends up with a divorce. But occasionally it doesn’t. Sometimes, the victim of the infidelity will find it in their heart to forgive their cheating partner, with one condition. They have to be punished. And sometimes, wearing a chastity belt is part of that punishment. In this case, the psychological impact of wearing a chastity belt can be extremely potent. The wearer cannot run from the reminder of their betrayal, as it encases the anatomy of their infidelity. It cannot be taken off unless with a key, usually held by the cheater's spouse. The shame must be unbearable, especially because you can never ignore a steel cage around your privates. Every time you move, you feel its weight shift with yours, constantly guilt-tripping you for the things that you’ve done. The psychological effect of wearing a chastity belt for fidelity Not everyone wears a chastity belt out of personal desire or punishment. Some wear it out of love for their partners. In the high-speed world that we live in, it’s possible to be married to someone on the other side of the earth. The great distance limits the chances for physical intimacy, so, a loyal spouse will wear a chastity belt to avoid acting on any sexual urges in their partner's absence. While others might feel shame or calm, these people must feel invigorated. They wear their chastity belts as a reminder of their love and loyalty and it must fill them with determination to have a happy and healthy relationship. Asking the expert While I’ll not openly profess any significant experience in this field, I have spoken to someone with vast knowledge on the subject of chastity and psychology. Mistress K, a lifestyle dominant woman and owner of the House of Denial on-line store, which exclusively sells male chastity cages, is very familiar with the effects a chastity device has on someone. “My submissive partner and I got into chastity purely out of interest in the fetish. We spotted the use of cages in some adult videos we watched together and wanted to see what impact the use of one could have on our relationship. In order to gain a greater understanding you must first understand that there are short and long term benefits and impacts on the male psyche when using one of these devices. Short term the implications can be immediately obvious. We use a cage to control his access to his genitals and the pleasure he gets from orgasms. Take that away from someone and you find that they become very complicit. The reason for this is obvious; they want to get back what you’ve taken away from them. In our dynamic that choice is entirely mine and the rules I put in place dictate what he must do to achieve this. Failing to meet my high standards will lead to the further denial of his pleasure, so there’s a huge amount of incentive to comply. I’ve also noticed that chaste men become more driven and therefore their level of productivity increases exponentially. If you remove distractions they focus on other things, which I find very beneficial personally. He wants to please me and will do any number of tasks that he’s set to gain a reward. You need to be careful by being realistic with your demands. Know who you’re dealing with on a personal level otherwise resentment can set in, which you need to avoid. If you set unrealistic targets that you know can be achieved he can get dejected, bitter and angry if you’re not watchful. In the long term I’ve seen quite a shift in mentality. After overcoming the initial impact of being locked in chastity they start to mellow and even out. Some characteristics remain the same, but once he comes to realise what his sexual future looks like they forget about the urges that drove some of them before. Entering into an abstinence focused relationship, be it for religious, kinky or self principled reasons it’s vitally important that consent is discussed. Locking someone in a chastity cage must always be a mutual decision. Yes, there are great benefits for both sides, but it’s an agreement that you must both want to enter into. Finally I want to highlight the psychological impact of chastity on the person that doesn’t wear the cage. As a keyholder (the person that keeps the key to someone’s chastity device) there are expectations and pressures that many won’t consider. You hold the key to someone’s happiness and enjoyment in your hands. In my relationship I know the commitment it takes taking on my role and I accept that with pleasure, but for others that dedication might be too much to handle. Know your limits and communicate openly, otherwise you’ll likely fail.” Conclusion What we wear affects our psyche. But why we wear it does so too. Wearing a chastity belt can affect our emotions differently depending on the reason that we wear it. Through those emotions, we get a glimpse at the person underneath, and we get to see a small fragment of who they are; the culmination of their nature and their nurture. Regardless of whether others can see them or not, what we wear shows a part of our story. And they say you shouldn’t judge a person by what they wear. But why shouldn’t I judge a book by it’s cover when that’s what the cover is for? |
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